Finance, Fitness, Finding Love

Think of the lies positive thinking tells you: "Things always work out. Life happens just the way it is supposed to. The universe will take care of me. My attitude is attracting good things. When God closes a door, he always opens a window." These statements are not true. There is no magic out there working on your behalf. Think of all the dreamers whose ship never came in, the millions dying of obesity, the drug addicts wasting their lives; the hordes hoping for miracles that never come. Things don't always just work out for the better. Things also don't always work out for the worst. You make them work. And it takes work. Lots of it. Here is a real-world phrase that will set you on the path you want: "I am not an optimist or a pessimist; I am a strategist." Your competition is thinking positively. So are your enemies. You have to do what they are not. You have to get up early, get moving and don't let up. Do that extra pushup, that extr

If you don't know about the Good Men Project, you are missing out on an important conversation about what it means to be a man in the 21st century. For seven years, this organization has been helping men rethink what it means to be a man, how to develop the character they want, and how to contribute to the world as an enlightened male. I am proud to say I have written pieces for the Good Men Project, and today I am telling you about their new IndieGoGo campaign at    https://www.indiegogo. com/projects/join-the- conversation-no-one-else-is- having-community-media/x/ 16856557#/ . Contributions to this worthy organization well help spread the initiative to make men better citizens, family members, lovers, and friends. I wholeheartedly urge you to visit their IndieGoGo page. The Good Men Project ambitiously aims to reinvent social media by making it into a live conversation where great ideas are discussed. The purpose of being a part of this group is to engender change; to make

The fear of being alone can be the beginning of your power There's nothing like the rush of your fist love. When you're a kid, you have little to lose, and you don't need much more than attraction to fire up your hormones and get your heart racing. Too many grownups spend the rest of their lives trying to recreate that rush of sudden love. The result is inappropriate and even dangerous relationships. When you choose charm over character, you are rolling the dice with your love life. But can't you get lucky and happen to find someone through love at first sight and still have a person of strong morals, good character and a positive outlook on life? No. And here's why.  A Good Person Won't Encourage You to Feel Worthless A person who allows you to rush into a relationship knows you are desperate. Your mate will have the upper hand the whole time you're together because you will have shown you’ll do anything to keep from being alone. You

Yoga in the park won’t cut it. Long walks along the beach holding hands with your girl won’t do a damn thing. Parking in the furthest parking space at the mall is a form of self-delusion-you might burn one extra calorie, and that won’t make a bit of difference to your fitness. You are a man. You can’t do the things women do to get fit. The suggestions above all come from fitness advice for women. You have to do man stuff. No, “man stuff” is not gulping beers at the sports bar. It is about one thing: building muscle. After all the advice about eating carbs vs. protein, taking up running or drinking shakes for dinner, the one thing that is going to work and work for good is putting on muscle. Why? Because muscle burns more calories than fat. Period. If you put on muscle, you will burn more calories every day, even on days you don’t work out. Get it? Got it? Good. Now here is the good news for you, if you are out of shape. Anything you do in the exercise depa

Stop Messing with Your Investments And Start Making Money You study and study a company before buying its stock. Then 24 hours later you regret buying it. You promise yourself you will wait a week and see how it is doing, but two days later you bail out when the stock drops. Maybe you find a solid stock you can stick with. Six months later, when it hasn’t done much, you get bored with it and sell. Cut out all the hand-wringing already. Sheesh. You must never get any sleep. There is a way to invest that is very likely to make you money, and you won’t have to check your investment every five minutes. In fact, you can check it as little as once a year. The Odds of “Beating the Market” The “market” is large, but the S&P 500 follows 500 stocks and is considered one of the best measures of how the market performs. Since 1926, the S&P 500 has averaged a 12% return annually. So that’s the “market” you desire to “beat.” If you were very educated abou

Breakup Boot Camp for Men: The Real Way to Get Over a Breakup I had the worst. The big bad breakup. You know, the kind where your self-esteem gets shredded and you get the feeling she objects to the fact that you are on this planet. And like other wretched men, I searched online for anything, anything that would help me get out of the pain. I finally had to admit that the advice I found-even from professionals-was inadequate and I was in this alone. Then I found it. Deep inside. The way to end the pain. It worked, and it worked big time. Some sources say it will take 18 months to get over your breakup. Not me. I don’t have that kind of time to waste. So I dug deep, and figured it out. I would not wish such pain on anyone, so I am sharing what I did. I wrote this for men, because I am a man. I plan to write the female version as soon as I get enough input from women who have successfully stopped the pain. For now, here you go guys: If you have had a bad breakup,